Phallic Phrases I: I want you to know…

I want to start this series on my blog as I often jot down phrases that stay in my mind for a while. Phrases that impress me or just make my mind wander and wonder about their origins and meanings.

“I want you to know…” is one of them. It appears in so many songs and often sounds romantic, loving even. But can you really make someone else know something? You can teach people, that would be the best way to achieve this goal. But more often than not, this phrase is used when the other person is not “teachable” – due to absence or unwillingness, for example.

Is it, therefore, selfish, to want somebody to know something? We all know the feeling, from political debates or when we fail to bring situational comedy across. We want people to understand our point of view or make them understand how funny that joke was, if you were there. Or, as the phrase often appears, the other person is supposed to know that they were loved.

The question here is why they did not know it. Do they refuse to listen/accept it? Or did the utterer of the phrase fail to express it at the right time?

Or, as the phrase is directed at someone of the moment of utterance, is it the first time that it’s being told? Why is that phrase in front needed, then?



  • The Reason (Hoobastank);
  • I want you to know (Zedd ft. Selena Gomez);
  • Call me maybe (Carly Rae Jepsen);
  • countless books and movies

Verdict: Powerful phrase, yet little to no giveaway to speaker’s actions and intentions.